being a mom.

*warning: this is coming from a sleep deprived mother of four, sick kids. *

ok. here is something i have been thinking about for a long time and i don't know why, but today is the day that i am going to say something. 

being a mom is HARD! 

there are rarely easy days. every day is different. every day poses new challenges. you never know how things are going to go when you wake up in the morning. each of your children are their own little people. just like us, they have emotions, feelings, and sometimes they wake up on the wrong side of the bed just like us!

they have a right to have those feelings. to have bad days and good.

so why is that if a mother complains, we are looked down upon. 

i am not talking about those women who complain constantly and do not ever seem grateful for their children/family. 

i am talking about all the good moms out there who work day in and day out to do the best that they can for their little ones.

i honestly do believe that being a mom is one of the toughest jobs on the face of the earth! you start to worry and care and do everything you possibly can for that little one from the time you hear that you are pregnant until the day that you die.

there is no coffee break in my day. there is no vacation days. if i am sick, i don't get to call in and take a sick day. i have to take care of my littles while running a fever, throwing up or whatever else i have been blessed with in the symptom category.

(ps. i am not knocking working women or working moms)

now here comes the part that really gets me.

i don't know if this has been everyones experience, but it has been mine. 

anytime i remotely say that i am having a bad day, or that my life can be hard sometimes, that it's not always sunshine and roses, i am met with this....

"well, your the one that had all those kids!".

 REALLY??

so because I love children and wanted a family... in my case, more than one or two...i am not allowed to have a bad day. I am not allowed to say, "man, today was rough!". 

I was actually told once when commenting on how tired i was "well, whose fault is that?". 

again...mind blowing.

from now on, maybe when "these" same people make make comments about their hard day at work, i will say, "well, you are the one that choose to work there!". Maybe when their boss has come down on them for not doing something right, i should say "well, whose fault is that?".

but we all know the truth. i would never do that. i would never say that to someone. 

i just get really tired of the double standard. 

being a mom is hard work. it is one of the most selfless jobs ever. i just don't think that women who try very hard day in and day out to be good moms should be made to feel bad when they just need to release and say, "wow, this is hard work". 

saying that does not make me regret my decision to have children. i love each and everyone of my little kiddos. i would not change a thing about my life. 

i guess in the end, it would be nice to just hear..."ya, that is hard work, hang in there."

ok. im done ranting... i do have little ones to go take care of!