Friday, October 16, 2009

i was not aware.

i was not aware of this... but after seeing a few different friends blogs today, i was happy that i had heard about it.
OCTOBER 15TH
Today is
Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.
(is a day of remembrance for all pregnancies and infant death which includes but not limited to miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS, or the death of a newborn. It is recognized in the United States and throughout Canada on October 15th of each year.)

what a wonderful way to remember those special little ones that we have lost. i know that each situation is different and that everyone has their own personal feelings about their own situations. i think this is a great way to remember.

after hearing about this i started thinking back. i often think about the baby we lost. i think the hardest part is the wondering..wondering what he/she would have looked like, laughed like, what their personality would have been. i would often look at cullan and kael and think how beautiful and wonderful they are and i grieve for what might have been.
our story was short but i realized today that i never documented it on our blog...probably because it was to painful at the time..
  • November 28th -we found out we were expecting
  • already nervous because did not have usual pregnancy symptoms.
  • had doctors appointment -said things looked good.
    (scheduled first ultrasound for Jan. 17 2008)
  • December 22nd -bleeding starts-drive to ER in the middle of blizzard. get sent home to wait and are told to schedule a visit with our ob on Monday.
  • Garran nicknames baby "trouba" saying that he/she was already giving me trouble.. we laughed about how cute this baby would be and how we would laugh if it was a naughty little thing.
  • dec 24th-ob appt. & ultrasound. baby looks good. cramping and bleeding continues.
  • struggled through Christmas with family. bleeding continues
  • dec 27th ultrasound.. baby measuring small but heartbeat strong. moving normally.
  • dec 28th miscarry baby @ home.
i am grateful for a day to remember. i think of that baby often and always wonder what might have been. i am grateful for the three wonderful children and for an amazing husband who helped me through every minute of the pain and who let me handle the loss in my own way, even when i know he was hurting too.

2 comments:

Frisbies Forever said...

We lit a candle for you too.
It is hard no matter how short the length of time. I am so glad you and Garren found each other. Your family always makes me smile. You know, the song on the blog with the video always makes me smile now. Cry the first few times but it is really beautiful and comforting in it's simplicity.

Jeanie Doll said...

I can't even begin to imagine how losing a baby or child must feel like. Thank you for all the advice when my sis in law was going through it. I hope you never have to experience this kind of pain again. I love you!

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I love the saying "the best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother". My husband does an amazing job of that. I am truly married to my best friend. We laugh often and try to see the best in every situation, or at least find the humor in it. We have four beautiful children. Cullan (7) Kael (6) Briea (3) and Ayla (2). We are currently living in Illinois while Garran attends Grad School. He is a talented print maker and is enjoying his time here. He has a website if you are interested. www.garrangillespie.com Right now we are living every day to the fullest and trying to have as much fun as possible along the way!!

This explains why I blog so much RIGHT?

“Your journal is your autobiography, so it should be kept carefully. You are unique, and there may be incidents in your experience that are more noble and praiseworthy in their way than those recorded in any other life. …
“What could you do better for your children and your children’s children than to record the story of your life, your triumphs over adversity, your recovery after a fall, your progress when all seemed black, your rejoicing when you had finally achieved?”
Elder Spencer W Kimball!

I need to read this every morning!

"It isn't as bad as you sometimes think it is. It all works out. Don't worry. I say that to myself every morning. It all works out in the end. Put your trust in God, and move forward with faith and confidence in the future. The Lord will not forsake us. He will not forsake us. If we will put our trust in Him, if we will pray to Him, if we will live worthy of His blessings, He will hear our prayers."

-President Gordon B. Hinckley

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