SOAP BOX MOMENT 2016: (THIS WILL BE MY ONLY ONE FOR THE
YEAR) I don’t usually like to get on here and rant about things. I like to post
fun things or cute pictures. However, this is something that has been bothering
me for a while and my hopes are not to call anyone out with this post but to
help others be more aware.
I have to say that this is a hard post for me to write because
it is something that I struggled with also. Luckily as an adult I have found confidence
in myself and love and support in a man that has helped me overcome a lot of my
confidence issues.
With that being said… Let me just ask if you would love to
be greeted every time someone saw you with your biggest insecurities being
called out, sometimes loud enough for all to hear? Please think before you make
comments about weight to a child. They are fully aware of what you are saying
whether the comment is direct or indirect. As a person that struggled with
weight as a child and now having a child that struggles with weight. They are
fully aware of what they look like. TRUST ME when I say that they get
picked on at school, they hate clothes shopping, when their siblings can just
pick something off the rack but we have to hunt for things that will fit them.
They look in the mirror every day and put on clothes every day. You are not
ENLIGHTENING them to their situation. They know. What you might not know is
that they may have a medical issue that makes weight an issue for them or maybe
they eat to suppress their feelings. (I know quite a few adults that struggle with
that so I don’t know why people don’t think that it might just start in
childhood as a way to cope with something) And I hate to break it to all the “well
meaning” adults. But they eat when they hear those comments about losing weight
or being heavy. What really kills me is when an overweight child says they are
hungry. Children that are obese get hungry just like children that are not. So
why, as adults do you feel that it is your place to call them out or make them
feel bad for feeling a basic human feeling of hunger. Are they supposed to
starve because they are overweight… Making comments about portion, having
seconds, or anything like that DOES NOT HELP. I have watched as those
comments are made and it is like I can see a little piece of my child’s heart
break each time. Of course the child will try to smile and agree with the
adult. They will put food back or not get something because they are trying to
be obedient. But the reality is that it is killing them inside. I know because
I have felt exactly what my child is feeling and I know the embarrassment and
pain that goes along with it.
I think that anyone that knows me, knows that I am not a
coddler. I let my children experience things and suffer consequences whether
from me or from natural consequences. So know that I understand children will
get picked on growing up and have to learn to work through it. I am all for
that. However, I am also all for that practice of, if you have such grave
concerns about my child’s health that you need to call them out, then please address them with me (or the
parents of that child). If you are not concerned about my child’s health but
still feel the need to make comments then you can stop NOW.. because all
you are is an adult that is bullying a child.
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